Mother

Marking the passing of my Mother

tl;dr

This post covers several purposes.  As I’ve done in the past, I need to mark major life events here.  I also need to get my thoughts out regarding all of the events that led to my Mother’s passing.

You’ll notice I’m not saying ‘want’ above.

This note is much longer, much more emotional than almost anything I’ve dropped here.  If you read this, please remember this is entirely therapeutic for me.  I don’t want to talk about this.  I’m glad if you get some value out of it – but I’m not posting here to engage in a conversation.

My short remembrance comes first in the section entitled In Conclusion.  After that, I’ve included notes I captured as I started taking care of Marjorie.  That longer section is entitled ‘Back to the Beginning.’  Please notice the entries were written in the present tense at the time the events occurred.  I have tried to clean it up over the past several months – but the notes still have that feel to them.

In Conclusion

My Mother died this past fall.  She passed away with a handful of us at her bedside – unaware we were there.  The end came suddenly.  I wish it had been less painful – but the ICU staff did what they could to make her comfortable. It’s ironic that someone who lived with hypertension, diabetes, chronic kidney disease and vascular dementia would die of a single tear in her duodenum. The bacteria and bile in her intestines leaked out into her bowels resulting in the infection of her blood.  It only took three days for her to die from sepsis. The day before her admission to the hospital, she and I had visited – and she’d been in good health.

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